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Books

While ABW recommends the following books, because we feel they contain significant valuable information, we ask you keep in mind that they come from a variety of sources and may contain material--including language, artwork, and recommendations/ideas that do not necessarily reflect ABW's ideals. Being included in this list does not mean that A Better Way necessarily supports or endorses any other material that the author or publisher may produce or sell. Read with discernment.

Beauty for Ashes: Biblical Help for the Sexually Abused - John Coblentz

Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past - Jan Frank

Forgiving What You'll Never Forget - Dr. David Stoop

Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn Proofing Today’s Young Kids - Kristen A. Jenson and Gail Poyner

Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing After Childhood Sexual Abuse - Nicole Braddock Bromley

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People - George K. Simon, Jr., Ph.D.

Joy for Mourning: A Personal Testimony of Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse - Anne Miller

My Body Belongs To Me - Jill Starishevsky

My Body is Private - Linda Walvoord Girard and Rodney Pate

My Body is Special and Private - Adrianne Simeone

No More Silence - Kia Burkholder

Predators, Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders:

Who They Are, How They Operate, And How We Can Protect Ourselves and Our Children - Anna C. Salter, Ph.D.

Protecting the Gift: Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (And Parents Sane) - Gavin De Becker

Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing With Sexual Abuse in Our Churches - Dale Ingraham with Rebecca Davis

The Courage Coach: A Practical, Friendly Guide on How to Heal from Abuse - Ashley Easter

The Child Safeguarding Policy for Churches and Ministries - Basyle (Boz) Tchividjiian and Shira M. Berkovits

The Story of Me -Stan and Brenna Jones

Who Is a Stranger and What Should I Do? - Linda Walvoord Girard

Why Are Boys and Girls Different? - Carol Greene

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Will

- Discuss the rights and responsibilities of the counseling relationship and allow you to choose whether you want them to be your counselor.

- Explain what their qualifications are – and are not.

- Work with you to determine what you want to accomplish and how you will get there.

- Consult with peers and/or have accountability for their actions. Licensed counselors are accountable to their licensing board. If your counselor is not licensed, ask who their supervising agency is.

- Recognize where their expertise ends and recommend someone who can help.

- Behave in a professional manner.

- Be respectful of other counselors.

Will NOT

- Exploit a client.

- Make promises about how their counseling will work.

- Have a formula or easy fix for your problem.

- Share what you have told them with others without talking to you about it first (or without sound ethical or legal justification.)

- Express interest in or enter a romantic or sexual relationship with a client, nor will they counsel someone with whom they have had such a relationship.

- Hug or touch, usually, and certainly not without permission.